{"id":25486,"date":"2015-05-06T09:24:42","date_gmt":"2015-05-06T13:24:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.unionvilletimes.com\/?p=25486"},"modified":"2015-05-06T09:24:49","modified_gmt":"2015-05-06T13:24:49","slug":"take-care-of-yourself-its-surprisingly-sexy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.unionvilletimes.com\/?p=25486","title":{"rendered":"Take care of yourself, it’s surprisingly sexy"},"content":{"rendered":"

When you feel beautiful, you are<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

By Nancy Plummer<\/strong><\/span>, Columnist, The Times<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\"NancyPlummerLogo\"<\/a>We\u2019ve all encountered more than our fair share of unsolicited romantic advice from friends, from family, and (most brazenly) from drunken friends of the family! But with contradicting and archaic advice mixed in with the helpful hints, it\u2019s hard to figure out which tips we should discard and which we should hold onto and implement in our own lives.<\/p>\n

Obviously in this day and age \u201cwhy buy the cow if you can get the milk for free\u201d is not the most realistic (or fun) platitude to pass-on or follow. And the \u201cif he\u2019s mean to you that\u2019s because he likes you\u201d play-ground logic, which somehow found its way into the adult-relationship column; if followed will result in your dating a big toddler, rather than a gentleman.<\/p>\n

Instead, the litmus test of which advice to follow should be: does it empower you?<\/p>\n

I still remember the advice my grandmother gave me when I was ten, \u201cIf you want to be happy in life and with a man, be sexy in and out of the bedroom.\u201d \u00a0I\u2019ve tried to live by it ever since.<\/p>\n

Although she used the word \u201csexy\u201d she wasn\u2019t telling me to dress like a hooker. Translated into today\u2019s vernacular, she simply meant I should try to feel and look beautiful every moment of my life.<\/p>\n

When I have female clients that are new to the dating world, I always tell them, \u201cIt\u2019s time to start taking care of you again, and never stop.\u201d So how do you start?<\/p>\n

I start by giving my clients a \u201cHead-to-Toe\u201d worksheet to fill out. Whatever your budget, let\u2019s start at the top and work down, and see what you think you need to do to make yourself feel beautiful. Although it sounds obvious, most people have never thought this out fully. By putting it down on paper and determining how to accomplish it, you allow yourself to see how a few simple changes can make a big impact. Now, dare yourself to go for it!<\/p>\n

Some of the more popular observations and notes are:<\/p>\n

Hair \u2013 Get a new sexy look.\u00a0 If you color your hair make sure you never let the gray show! As for other body hair, either get yourself a good razor and get into a daily regimen of shaving in the shower, or look into laser hair removal to make life easy.<\/p>\n

Face \u2013 For women who are into a \u201cnatural\u201d appearance, definitely purchase anti-wrinkle serum, and at least consider getting a little Botox just to get rid of the lines between your eyes (known as \u201cangry lines\u201d). It\u2019s remarkable the difference in the way men and women will perceive you when the \u201cangry lines\u201d are gone. As for makeup, ask a friend whose image you like for help, or go to Sephora, Mac or the Mall and have them assist you.<\/p>\n

Eyes \u2013 Consider purchasing new glasses or contacts or even colored contacts. Always bring a friend along for honest feedback.<\/p>\n

Eyebrows \u2013 Get a good professional to do your eyebrows \u2013 it\u2019s about $7 and it\u2019ll frame your face and give you a great clean look.<\/p>\n

Neck \u2013 Most women forget that our necks usually give our age away, so keep putting on sunscreen and moisturize daily.<\/p>\n

Breasts \u2013 Keep them looking perky by getting a good bra (preferably a pushup), getting in good workouts with weights, and maybe even getting an augmentation or a lift. If you do want to get breast implants, do it for you not for a man.<\/p>\n

Body \u2013 Get out there and exercise in every way you can and have fun \u2013 maybe take up a new sport or energetic hobby! As for losing weight, just remember to keep it simple (e.g. no eating after 8pm). Also, realize that muscle weighs more than fat but looks much better!<\/p>\n

Fingers and Toes \u2013 There\u2019s nothing like a good mani-pedi to make you feel feminine and put together \u2013 indulge.<\/p>\n

Remember: there are ways to keep your expenses down so you can do this even on a budget – from Groupons for Botox, to consignment shopping for updating your wardrobe, to $5 weights at Five Below to get in shape in your home – it takes dedication not necessarily money to get you feeling fabulous.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to focus on you, and give yourself the attention you deserve. Make yourself beautiful for you, and show the world the woman you truly are.<\/p>\n

Go for it girls \u2013 you\u2019re worth it!<\/p>\n

Nancy Plummer is Founder of the Elite Empowerment & Education Council, empowering individuals and groups to transform their personal and professional lives.<\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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